Babies Can Consent: 16-Year-Olds Can’t

 

How can babies be old enough to give consent and teenagers aren’t?

In some parts of Australia, 15 year olds aren’t old enough to give consent to another person doing things with their genitals. In other parts, 16 year olds aren’t old enough.  In some cases, neither are 17 year olds.

But babies are? A sex expert is recommending parents don’t change their infant’s diapers until the baby gives permission.

Sexuality expert says parents should ask for consent to change a baby’s diaper

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Photo of female teenager by Tyfox is released into the public domain.  Photo of newborn is by Dianakcline and is under a Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike 3.0 Unported license.

Donald Trump Lies

“I’m not gonna play much golf, because there’s a lot of work to be done.” –Donald Trump

All right, so the title of this entry is hardly ground-breaking.  Even supporters of Donald Trump say he lies (and may justify it by saying all politicians lie and they don’t care).

But comparing the number and type of Trump’s documented lies to those of hundreds of people in studies reveal a couple of startling things.  Social scientist

For one thing, he apparently lies much more often than the average person.  For another, Trump’s lies are rarely made to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, like many of us do (“Why yes, I really do like your new, whatever-it-is you’re wearing.”)  Instead, Donald Trump’s lies are often the opposite: insulting and hurtful.  He lies to insult people much, much more often than almost all of the rest of us. In fact, according to records of his public comments, his lies are 10 times more likely to be malicious.

Come to think of it, having listened to Trump speak, maybe that isn’t too surprising either.

I study liars. I’ve never seen one like President Trump.
Voter’s don’t seem to care whether candidates tell the truth

Linked photo is listed as REUTERS/David Moir

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9 Incredible Benefits of Breastfeeding

Mary Cassatt, 1898 – Louise nursing her child

An opinion by guest blogger Jessica M

Breastfeeding is the most natural way of taking care of your little one. It’s an incredible method of nourishing your baby, and its benefits extend beyond the basic nutrition. There is no denying breastfeeding is not compulsory, and the decision to breastfeed or not is a personal choice. It’s a decision that will most likely draw opinions from close friends and family.

In spite of the benefits, breastfeeding is one of the most daunting tasks for new mothers. The challenge is compounded by the fact that some people are completely uncomfortable with it. Some even discriminate against mothers who breastfeed in public. Whether you hate breastfeeding in public or are a new mom who doesn’t like breastfeeding, appreciating these benefits will completely change your mind. Here are some incredible benefits of breastfeeding:

1) Breastfeeding keeps SIDS at bay

Sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) can be caused by a cascade of events that lead to sudden unexplained death before the baby’s first birthday. According to a review of the most recent research studies, both exclusive and partial breastfeeding reduces the risk of SIDS. The longer you breastfeed your baby, the better the protective effect. Although results from the most recent researches vary, there is strong evidence that if you breastfeed your baby for any length of time, they will have a reduced (about 50%) risk of SIDS. Besides, some studies have shown that not breastfeeding your baby subjects them to risk higher than that from maternal smoking.

2) Breastfeeding improves mother-child bonding

There is no denying the process of breastfeeding is astounding. When your baby suckles at the breast, it signals your brain to release a hormone called oxytocin. This hormone also know as the love hormone signals your breast to release the milk and the milk let down encourages the baby to keep feeding.

Ever had a crush? The feeling that you get is precipitated by this hormone. When the baby is suckling, good amounts of oxytocin are released. This hormone makes you experience a gush of affection and love for the baby. Therefore every time you breastfeed your baby, the surge of love helps you to bond perfectly with your baby.

3) Breastfeeding helps you lose baby weight

This is an incredible benefit celebrated by all moms. When you breastfeed your baby, you shed an extra 500 calories per day. Some studies have shown that moms who breastfeed exclusively shed baby weight more quickly than those who don’t. Who would hate losing up to 500 extra calories a day?

However, if you adopt unhealthy choices such as poor dieting and lack of sleep, don’t expect breastfeeding to help you lose weight.

4) Breastfeeding boosts the baby’s and mother’s health

Many moms are aware of the health benefits breastfeeding offers for their baby. In fact, most of them breastfeed for the sake of their babies. But did you know breastfeeding benefits the mom too? For instance, breastfeeding lowers the risk of breast and ovarian cancer. The longer you breastfeed your baby(s), the lower the risk of breast and ovarian cancer. Studies have shown that, for every 12 months of breastfeeding, the risk of breast cancer is decreased by 4%. On the other hand, it boosts your little one’s immune system. Breast milk has plenty of health-promoting and germ-fighting components.

5) Breastfeeding aids the uterus to shrink down to pre-pregnancy size.

As aforementioned, when the baby starts breastfeeding, it causes the mother’s body to release oxytocin. As the brain signals the release of this hormone, mild cramping occurs in your lower abdomen. The cramping is not comfortable, but it’s a positive sign that the uterus is healing.

6) It helps you make up for lost sleep

Babies are amazing bundles of joy. But their arrival is marked with interrupted sleep for breastfeeding. Although this makes new moms tired, it brings an added benefit. The steady release of oxytocin during breastfeeding enables you to make up for the lost sleep. Oxytocin brings a soothing effect and makes you more relaxed.

In most cases, new moms fall asleep while breastfeeding not because they are exhausted but because of the release of the hormone. Those 10 to 20 minutes nap helps you recover some of the lost sleep. Besides, even if you don’t sleep the calming feeling leaves your body rejuvenated.

7) Breastfeeding is cost and time saving

Did you know breastfeeding brings numerous financial benefits? Many new moms don’t realize this fact because they take it to be a normal event. Breastfeeding is free and time-saving. You do not have to rush to the nearest store; the milk is readily available.
If you want to see that breast milk is tremendously cost-effective, compare it to artificial milk. The cost estimate for artificial milk is roughly $1800/year, this without the extra preparation costs. This amount can be put to good use like buying the best formula for treating spitting up and gas.

Also, if your baby is well breastfed he/she will fall sick less often. This will translate to reduced healthcare cost. Parents who don’t breastfeed their babies miss work about six times more due to baby illness than those who breastfeed well.

8) Breastfeeding is environment-friendly

Breast milk is the most natural and organic food for your baby. It produces no waste, reduces the carbon footprint, and above all it’s a sustainable means for feeding your baby with no negative impact on our environment.

9) Breastfeeding is a reliable way of birth control

In most countries around the world, breastfeeding is a renowned, natural method of birth control. When utilized effectively, this method can yield up to 98% success. This birth control method is called Lactation Amenorrhea Method (LAM) and relies on four pillars to succeed. The principles include:

  • The mom must be exclusively breastfeeding
  • The baby must be less than six months old
  • The mom’s menstrual cycle has not resumed
  • The baby is not sleeping more than 6 hours at night and 4 hours in the day.

If the mentioned conditions change, you must seek an alternative method of birth control.

Wrapping it up

The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologist and the American Academy of Pediatrics are among the numerous medical authorities that strongly advocate breastfeeding. This is mainly attributed to the health benefits that both the baby and the mother get. You and your little one are inimitable; the decision to breastfeed or not is hinged solely on your personal preference. However, if you take into account all the incredible benefits we’ve highlighted, nothing is going to stop you from breastfeeding your baby.

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About The Author:

Jessica is the mother of one, a Chief, and a lover of the great ideas. You can find her journey through motherhood on her blog Take Care Baby (https://takecarebaby.net/)

An opinion of a poster to The Loveshade Family Blog does not necessarily reflect the views of the whole family. Nothing in this article should be interpreted as medical advice; consult with a physician before making decisions on baby care and contraception.

Reverend Loveshade and Ms. M.C. and Baby Three

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Big three-year-old sister holding newborn baby brother.

All names in this entry are Discordian names.

It’s baby number three! Ms. M.C. gave birth to Cobbraven at 19.54 UTC Tuesday, 26 Dec. 2017. Cobbraven weighed in at 3,855 grams (8.5 lbs.) and was 51.8 cm long (20.4 inches).  Mommy and Baby are doing great.  Daddy, who worried tremendously over the birth of baby one, and a lot over baby two, has almost gotten used to Ms. M.C. giving birth.  Almost. Older sisters Twinkleton and Wunderkätzchen are ready, willing, and able to help their new brother. The family didn’t get the same midwife as for their first two offspring, but got great help from Nurse Aislebeth. Once again, Untroubled Teen V, Ms. MC’s 18-year-old sister, helped with the birth which was at Roseneteeth Commune. UTV, who plans to become a midwife in four years or so, has already helped at all three of the couple’s births (starting when age 12) and several other births.

Congratulations to the family!

תהלה הרץ shot the photo which is under a Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike 4.0 International license.

Reverend Loveshade & Ms. M.C. Expecting No. 3

Pregnant woman image by Øyvind Holmstad. This file is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike 4.0 International license.

Pregnant woman image by Øyvind Holmstad. This file is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike 4.0 International license.

Once again, Reverend Loveshade and Ms. M.C. are excitedly expecting a new family member! This time it’s number three. Expected due date is 2017 Dec. 30, but the parents promise the baby will get a Christmas present anyway. Their whole commune is expecting the baby as they consider themselves one big extended family.

Their first daughter, Puffletoes Twinkleton, was born in June 2011, and their second, Wunderkätzchen (Kitty for short), was born in June 2014 (you might guess those are their Discordian, not legal, names). So this will be their first Western Hemisphere winter baby. (Ms M.C. said when you’re pregnant, cooler is better). The girls are busy working to get things ready for their new sibling.

Congratulations on their coming arrival!

Breastfeeding Week 2017

Photograph Australian artist Joy Hester nursing her son Sweeney. In the background can be seen a painting by 'Professor' Henry Tipper (Harold Deering), a trick cyclist and amateur painter whose work was discovered and promoted by Albert Tucker. Shot in 1945, the photo is in the public domain.

Photograph Australian artist Joy Hester nursing her son Sweeney. In the background can be seen a painting by ‘Professor’ Henry Tipper (Harold Deering), a trick cyclist and amateur painter whose work was discovered and promoted by Albert Tucker. Shot in 1945, the photo is in the public domain.

It’s time to celebrate breastfeeding with World Breastfeeding Week between Aug. 1 and 7, 2017. Breastfeeding is the most natural thing a mother and child can do. And yet it’s shunned in many parts of the world. Mothers have been threatened and fired and even injured for wanting to take good care of their babies.

Breastfeeding is important for nourishment and the immune system and the bond it forms between mother and child. Even men can build a better relationship with a child held to their bare chest as skin-to-skin contact is critically important to a developing infant.

Learn more about breastfeeding and World Breastfeeding Week at http://worldbreastfeedingweek.org/.

See also “The 111 Benefits of Breastfeeding – For Babies, Moms & Everyone Else.”  This has some commercial links, but most of the links are to information from the United States Government.

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Alden Loveshade: Why Wait Til I’m Dead?

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IMPORTANT: As of this posting, Alden Loveshade is very much alive.

Alden has been to far too many funerals/memorial services in the past few years, losing a father, two brothers, uncle, cousin, etc.  So many times it’s come up: “Gee, I wish I said that when he/she was still alive.”

Well, this is your chance. Feel free to post what you’d post if Alden really was gone.  Then, when the time comes, you can say, “Gee, I’m glad I said that when e was still alive.”  Note that Alden has professionally published 2,000 or so obituaries, and couldn’t resist co-writing his own.

Alden Loveshade, writer, photographer, personist, philosopher, animal caregiver, friend and family member, has died.  In accordance with es wishes, this article uses the genderless “e” for “he,” “es” for “his,” etc.

E graduated with distinction with an Associate Degree in Humanities from MSJC.  E was a member of the national honor society Phi Theta Kappa, co-editor of the campus newspaper, editor of student publications, homecoming king (winning with a bag over es head), two-term student government president, and area vice president and state board member for the California Community College Student Government Association.  While at college e was a winner of a Student Leadership Award and a Special Leadership Award and was named to the Order of the Pineapple.  The U. S. Jaycees named him as one of the Outstanding Young Men in America.

Returning to college, Alden graduated Summa cum Laud from California State Polytechnic University, Pomona, with a Bachelor’s Degree in Theatre Arts and a minor in Chicano/Latino Studies.  E also became a member of the Golden Key National Honor Society.  E was co-creator and head writer of “Same River Twice,” a university-produced English language telenovela that won Best Film for Inland California Filmmakers, Smog Dance 1999, and was featured in the New York Latino Film Festival that same year.

It was produced with advice from Oscar and Emmy Award winning cinematographer Haskell Wexler, and under Executive Producer, writer, radio personality, documentarian and Emmy Award Winner Saul Landau.

E was also a director and playwright with several produced plays, including “A Very Bad One Act” directed by Daytime Emmy-Award nominee Ronald Layne Hoffman.  He worked as a reporter, newspaper columnist, book reviewer, researcher, investigative consultant, computer lab supervisor, teacher, web site designer, photographer, animal caregiver, and dishwasher.

E also published articles, short stories, poems, essays, play and movie reviews, cartoons, graphic designs, and photographs.  His work has appeared in a number of local, national and international publications under a variety of pennames.  Under the name Alden Loveshade, es work as appeared in a number of publications including Anaphora Literary Press, BBC, Flight Magazine, Guideposts Magazine, Hemet Magazine, Hungur Magazine, Intermittens Magazine, Sixfold Magazine, Yahoo! News, and Yahoo! Sports.  He also wrote under different names for a number of other publications including being a regular writer and photographer for a Pulitzer Prize winning periodical that is one of the 100 top newspapers in America.

As a singer, actor, playwright, director and in various other capacities, e was involved with about 200 community, college, civic, and professional productions on stage and in radio and television including choral, musical, drama, tragedy, comic, and one-act productions. E appeared in the world premiere of Will Eisner Award Hall of Famer Don Martin and Ron Hoffman’s mini-musical Mia Romantica Crazio.

E was a controversial activist who emphasized five basic beliefs.  These are 1) the rights of the individual, 2) the responsibilities of the individual to society, 3) the responsibility of parents and caregivers to prepare a child for life, 4) complete personal freedom in a free society if it harms no one, and 5) harmonious discord, accepting differences.  As a journalistic activist and investigator, e faced threats of incarceration and even death threats by phone, email, letter, and in person.  E spent time living on the street, and escaped after capture by an armed assailant.  Considering emself a “personist,” e promoted the use of the words “e,” “es,” and “emself” as substitutes for “he/she,” “his/her,” and “himself/herself.”

Es hobbies included historical recreation, acting, drumming, bicycling, being a lord of Sealand, and role-playing games, especially GURPS for which e was a playtester.

In lieu of flowers, it’s asked that donations be made to a favorite charity or group that supports the five basic beliefs.

IMPORTANT: As of this posting, Alden Loveshade is very much alive.

Children: Protect Them or Prepare Them?

parenting_america_europe_sObviously, protecting children from danger and preparing them for life are both important. But America has gotten increasingly out of balance. The overly protected are the under prepared.

Many people don’t know that more 18-year-olds are abducted in America now than 8-year-olds. Boys and girls who are overprotected do not magically learn how to take care of themselves the day they turn 18.

This video contrasts modern day America and Europe. Perhaps American parents should stop and think about why the motto for both the Boy Scouts and Girl Scouts is “Be Prepared,” not “Be Protected.”

Note that the combined experience of The Loveshade Family includes raising, teaching and tutoring children and studying child psychology.  In addition to the above mottos, the motto of the Discordian Shamlicht Kids Club is “Be Prepared for Anything” which is actually the intent of the Boy Scouts’ original motto according to its founders.

https://www.facebook.com/attn/videos/1195393347162789/

 

 

Dangerous Dogs, Untrained Handlers, Native Americans

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Image of video of dog attack incident and interview with Jonni Joyce.

Dangerous Dogs, Untrained Handlers, Native Americans clash in protest over pipeline.There’s a big debate about a pipeline going through Amerind land where it could impact on both sacred ground and the availability of clean water. A federal judge has temporarily halted some construction. But I’d like to focus on the dogs brought in to “handle” the peaceful protest.

I’m not an expert in this kind of dog training like Jonni Joyce, who is interviewed in the video by Democracy Now. But I am familiar with it as a journalist who covered crime for many years and I have worked with animals including dogs for quite a few years. It’s obvious to me in this video that the dogs, the dog handlers, or both have not been properly trained. That is completely inappropriate and is, as can be seen in the video, dangerous. Several people and apparently a horse were bit.  I’m sure heads are going to roll because of this.

Here’s a shorter Facebook version of the video.

An opinion of an individual member of The Loveshade Family does not necessarily reflect the views of the entire family.

 

Humans are Sheep–Stand with the Flock?

Hidden camera social experiment (posted by Anonymous)

Hidden camera social experiment (posted by Anonymous)

A small social experiment–would you stand at a buzzer just because everybody else does?

In “free” societies, it’s often used as an insult to call people “sheep.”  We like to say, “Do your own thing,” and “Be yourself,” and “Don’t do that just because your friends do.”

But Homo sapiens are a social species. Most of us do go along with the crowd, even if we don’t know why. Even the most independent of us doesn’t desire to be ostracized from our own society.

So would you stand up?

Link is www.facebook.com/anonews.co/videos/vb.997108126967413/1313784798633076/?type=2&theater